SIGNS & SYMPTOMS THAT YOUR PARTNER IS CHEATING OR THE LOVE IS FADING

#1. THAT CLOSE INTIMACY THAT WAS ONCE THERE IS GONE/
       People need connection and they intrinsically are programmed for the physical touch, the sex. If your

boy/girl suddenly stops showing interest in sleeping with you and seems to have one too many headaches, you are going to have to ask yourself the hard question of whether or not she might be cheating.
        Truth – Try not to let your ego get in the way here. The sooner the better for you for finding out if your girl is true to you or not.

#2. DOESN'T SEEM TO HAVE A TIME FOR YOU.
          This is a weird one but when you are moving along smoothly with a girl or a boy, you get replies pretty quickly the most part when it comes to emails and texting. However, when the lag time gets longer and longer for the response, you’ve got to ask yourself if something might be up?

Perhaps you have set a date to take her or him out and he or she calls you up to beg you to reschedule. Sure, this might be real but if it happens more than once, you’ve got to ask yourself whether or not he or she wants to be with you. You see, if a boy or girl wants to be with a guy or lady and isn’t sleeping around on him or her, she or he is going to do whatever it takes to be with him or her Period.

#3. LOSS OF INTEREST IN YOU.

       People cheat for variety of reasons but usually happens when someone is unhappy in their relationship. If you suspect your partner might be seeing someone else watch out this four things;

• The normal calls become less frequently.
• The other party seems distracted when you are together spending time.
• Your plans are cancelled regularly.
• Lies to you about where they are going.

#4. HER OR HIS FRIENDS ACTING DIFFERENTLY TOWARDS YOU.

           Have his or her friends begun to act oddly around you? When you casually talk to his or her friends do they seem anxious, nervous or eager to leave? They probably know something that you don't know.

#5. ASKING YOUR BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND TO EXPLAIN.

• Listen to how they explain his or her behavior. If  they voluntary give you excuses that are detailed and scripted, then they probably are. He or she has most likely projected your questions based on their indiscretion and preemptively created a story to cover it all up. Listen and note any details which are unnecessarily significant to their story e.g names, times, exact location e.t.c and remember to keep a mental list.
• Notice  the response.When they finish telling their story do they shake their head, toss up their hands, or use similar gestures to mimic exhaustion, confusion and disbelief about their crazy evening or event? Body language is a great indication that they are acting up. Now after the explanation ask them an abstract question about the specific detail you picked. Innocently ask when this 'detail' or event happened or some other simple question. If he or she is not being truthful they will give it away during this question.
• Pay attention to what happens now. Did they awkwardly get silent or shift before giving you an answer? Did they stutter or becomes nervous with their words? Did they look like a deer in the highlights? If so, here is why: When someone is telling the truth they don't need to think about the answer for more than a second or two. The details are already there because it truly happened.
• Do it again with another detail oriented question. Keep watching closely. Can you see them thinking it through again? Are they becoming frustrated and starting to snip at your 'dumb question and or ask "What does it matter?" If so this is a stalling technique they use while making up new details. It's also a handy distraction if they point their finger back at you and make you the bad guy for asking in the first place. How often have we heard, "What exactly are you insinuating?"
• Expect to be questioned back. Usually your partner will start questioning you and inevitably say, "What? You don't believe me? Do you think I'm lying to you?" Wait patiently and eventually you will hear the sweet words, "What? Do you think am I'm cheating on you?"  BINGO.
• Ask yourself, did you insinuate that they were hiding something?Did you steer the story in a direction to make room for interrogation then blatantly accuse them of messing around? Did you actually accuse them of anything at all? By asking simple questions your partner not only revealed what kind of behavior they have been hiding, but they also spun their entire story out of whack, no matter how solid they believed it to be, and became overwhelmed. At this point, if you ask them anything, he/she will probably start to sweat, panic, or lose the capability to accurately recall anything about their story. The discrepancies will flow at this point and soon you will have enough information know if your partner is 'on the level.'

Sure, there are girls/boys out there that can’t lie but there are many more that seem to be professionals. Truth be told – When a girl or boy is avoiding your direct questions and playing the angel card, you need to have your spider senses on full alert that she might well be cheating on you. If she/he is slow in their response or stalls to answer, you better be aware, just saying.

This one is really too familiar. If you ask her/him what she/he is been up to and she/he freaks out, you better pay attention. If your girl/boy starts to become defensive and aggressive with any questions you’ve asked, she/he probably is cheating on you.

When a girl/boy starts nagging, you better watch out. What this tells you is that she/he really isn’t too concerned about what you think or how you are feeling, she/he just wants to have what she wants pronto. BEWARE – This doesn’t mean signed, sealed and delivered that she/he is cheating on you,but it’s a pretty good indication she/he really doesn’t really care about you. That should be enough for you to move forward positively.

Fact – If he/she is taking hours to get back to you and doesn’t really seem too excited to do so, you need to question her intentions. Just pay attention to the cues and compare them to her normal actions. Better safe than sorry, don’t you think?

There’s a difference between not wanting to look too far ahead in a relationship and just not wanting to look at all. If your girl/boy is saying no more than yes to things you suggest the two of you do together, then you need to give your head a shake and make sure she’s still into you. She/he’s trying to cover his/her tracks if he/she doesn’t want to plan anything with you, just saying.

There’s a difference between friendly flirty when you are together where there is an understanding between the two of you. However, if he/she is flirting with other people right in front of you with no regard to your feelings, you’ve got to assume he/she doesn’t really care how you are feeling. This could mean he/she is comfortable in the arms, or bed of another, and really doesn’t care about the security she once had with you. Be careful here because this one really does hurt and you don’t deserve that.

FINAL WORDS.

There is no guide to figure out whether or not your girlfriend is cheating on you, too bad. What you need to do is open your mind to look for the signs and signals and go from there. This is where you need to remove yourself for what she is actually saying defensively and use the facts in front of you